THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS.

Two antonyms of  each other, happiness and sadness. These two emotions influence the everyday life of a person. “Oh, my friend got married!” is happy and “Oh! My friend got married!” is sad. We experience both of these emotions in life but what matters is, for how long. To be honest it’s a matter of choice to be happy…

Case I : A person earns RS 100,000,000,000 per year , has a bungalow, his own sports club and a Bugatti Royale but is unhappy because of the responsibilities he has to take, his daughter never graduated high school, his son is gay and got divorced thrice. On the contrary, a middle class person ears RS 1,000,000 per month, has 3 BHK flat, pays for his gym every month and has an Audi is happy because he is satisfied with what he has. Satisfaction is important for being happy.

Case II : A person whose father is the greatest actor of all time, has a well-known last name, married Miss Universe is unhappy because after 15 years in the film industry never got the break he wanted. On the contrary, an orphan who lost his parents at the age of 10 , lives in church, has 3 best friends, who love each other and help each other grow in life is happy because he has accepted the fact and moved on to prove himself. Accepting the fact and moving on is important for being happy.

Case III : A person who is healthy, has a loving wife, 2 kids who love him is unhappy because he thinks his fellow friend has a better life than him, a better body, a more beautiful wife and the kids are more intelligent than his. On the contrary, a person who has got over the news that he is suffering from cancer and going to die, leaves the women he loves because he didn’t want to hurt her is happy because he accepted what he is. Accepting what you are is important for being happy.

Most people suffer from merely existing versus really living, embrace new experiences. Go beyond your comfort zone and be who you are. Be free from fear and other emotions that are sabotaging you. Let go the past and the bad memories, sadness only breeds more sadness.

There are over 6 billion people on this earth. There are infinite relationships to be had. Everyone has something to give. Everyone offers something worth learning. There is infinite love to give and to offer. You can choose to be lonely but you are never alone.

If you can read this you are fortunate. If you can walk, talk, see, smell, taste or feel or all this things you are fortunate.

Remember happiness is a state not a circumstance. Happiness is a state of being, not merely a moment of pleasure or joy. By committing to happiness you accept there will be times of challenge and suffering but by staying true to who you are, you will not just survive but thrive. Happiness is not just the bird floating serenely on the water and happiness is not eliminated by the rocks that temporarily disturb the water, happiness is the water itself, always being exactly what it is.

“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go in the wilderness of your intuition. What you will discover will be wonderfull, what you will discover is yourself.”

“Be such a man and live such a life, that if every man was such as you and every life, a life like yours, this earth would be god’s paradise.”

SO, YOU DECIDE...

                                                                                                                                       -$UN

ADDICTION 1

I wake up and the first thing I do is look for my mobile. Its usually on my side table. If its not there, I check under the pillow, in the sheets, and even under the bed. I calm down as i find it in my pocket. Silly me.

Unlock. Messges. Four. Four? Thats two less than yesterday morning. I open them One forwarded and three “gud mrng”. I reply to them, check WhatsApp, and then turn my attention to the call of nature.

Almost everyone of us is addicted to the Mobile (a.k.a cell a.k.a phone a.k.a cell phone). And not just for calling; texting, gaming, the internet, music etc. And facebook. dont forget that. With so much functions crammed into it, its hard not to get addicted to it. And like every other addiction, its very very hard to curb it.

Parents probably wont understand the addiction. Thats natural. Mobiles were not around in your childhood. We grew up around them. We saw them evolve from chunky green and black things to sleek smartphones. They are now a vital part of our lives. An extension of our hands. We have our boyfriends, girlfriends, just-friends, photos, videos, songs, games, our whole world inside it!

Just to pop the bubble, How about some boring maths?

Lets say a boy wakes up at 9 AM and goes to sleep at 12AM. Thats 15 hours of staying awake. At 200 messages per day, thats 13 messages an hour. And that, my dear friends, is a message every 5 minutes. Good? Bad? Healthy? You decide.

Just stating the facts here. I have seen my friends bordering on paranoia and hysteria when they cant find their mobiles. I have seen them get depressed when they don’t get an instant reply. (Chill, dude, she must be in the toilet.) Chatting late in the night causes headaches and makes you irritated. Sometimes, it upsets your sleep cycle. Well, you must really like headaches then. It also ruins your English, lessens your attention span, reddens your eyes, spoils your eyesight, and makes you sterile. Okay, the last one was not true. Even so.

Addictions can be controlled.  Even this one. Its simple really. (Elementary, Watson.) Don’t recharge your message or net pack. You can still send messages, but they will cost you. Better yet, switch to Vodafone.  That will teach you a lesson.

Parents, don’t force us to stop using mobiles. Don’t take them away. That will only makes matters worse. We will stop using them when we lose our arm in an accident because we were on facebook while riding a scooter.

The cellphone is one of the most useful gadgets in our life. Use it only when nesecarry. There’s no need to know whether s/he had dinner. There are better things in life to get addicted to. This blog, for example. I have to go now. Someone just messaged me.

Tc.  

-KAVI